If thereâs one thing Iâve learned about money, itâs this: life is too short to feel guilty every time you buy something that makes you happy. For years, I was the queen of âbudgeting with guilt.â Iâd put every single dollar into bills, groceries, or savings and leave zero room for fun. And let me tell you, it sucked the joy out of everything.
But hereâs the truth: budgeting isnât about punishing yourselfâitâs about freedom. And yes, you can create a budget that pays your bills, grows your savings, and still lets you enjoy that iced latte, weekend brunch, or spontaneous girlsâ trip without feeling like youâre breaking the bank.
So, how did I figure this out? I created my very own âFun Money Budget.â And honestly, itâs been life-changing.
I remember one weekend when my friends asked me to join them for a quick day trip. I said no because I was âsaving money.â But deep down, I was miserable. I realized I wasnât actually livingâI was just hoarding my money like a dragon with no plan. Thatâs when I decided to rethink my budget.
Hereâs the secret: you have to treat fun as a priority, not an afterthought.
I started by setting aside a small percentage of my incomeâjust 5-10%âfor pure enjoyment. I call this my âJoy Jar.â This is guilt-free money, meant only for things that make me smileâcoffee dates, concerts, or even a new pair of shoes.
Pro Tip: If you name it (like âWeekend Joy Fundâ), you wonât feel guilty when you spend it. Itâs literally what you planned for!
Most budgets start with bills and savings, and fun is an afterthought. But I flipped the script:
I pay my fixed bills first (rent, utilities, etc.).
Then I allocate savings (even a small amount counts).
Next, I fund my fun accountâbefore groceries or anything else.
The result? I always have a small pool of cash ready for things that bring me happiness. It feels empowering to know that fun is not âextraââitâs part of the plan.
Fun doesnât always have to cost big bucks. I discovered free local events, cozy movie nights with homemade popcorn, and cheap weekend adventures. Honestly, the memories Iâve made during these low-cost outings are better than anything Iâd get from swiping my card endlessly.
Hereâs my game-changer hack: I use a digital or cash envelope system just for fun money. When itâs gone, itâs gone. This keeps me from overspending and forces me to get creative when funds are low.
When you set a clear boundary for fun spending, every purchase feels intentional, not impulsive. Youâre not blowing your budgetâyouâre living it. And guilt? Completely gone.
When I first started setting aside money for fun, I worried Iâd lose control and spend it all on random things. But with time, I created a few rules that keep me balanced and happy. Here they are:
I started with 5% of my income, but on months where I had extra breathing room, I increased it to 10%. The key is that your fun money should never compromise your essentials or savings. Itâs like a reward for being responsible with the rest of your budget.
Example: If you earn $2,000 a month, even $100-$150 for fun can make a huge difference without blowing your financial goals.
I noticed I felt happier when I used my fun money for moments rather than stuffâlike brunch dates, a painting class, or a cozy cafĂŠ day with my favorite book. These experiences stay with me, while random impulse buys usually donât.
Instead of spending all at once, I like to spread my fun money throughout the month. A midweek coffee, a cheap bouquet of flowers for my home, or a DIY spa night (hello, $5 face masks!) make my month feel joyful without guilt.
I created a separate âfun accountâ connected to a digital wallet. When I want to splurge, I use this account so I can see exactly how much I have left. No overspending, no regret!
This is my favorite rule: whatever I spend from this fund, I refuse to feel bad about it. Why? Because I planned for it. Itâs like giving yourself permission to live a little.
$12: Movie night snacks + a Netflix rental.
$25: Brunch with my best friend.
$8: Weekly coffee treat at my favorite cafĂŠ.
$30: Cute thrifted jacket (I still get compliments on it!).
$20: A weekend picnic with homemade snacks.
Some months I save my fun money to do something bigger, like buying concert tickets or a weekend getaway. It feels so good knowing I can enjoy these things without touching my main budget.
Host a Girlsâ Night In: Wine, candles, and a movie marathon with friendsâcosts less than $10.
DIY Spa Day: Bath bombs, sheet masks, and soft music can make you feel like youâre in a luxury spa.
Thrift Shopping Adventure: Turn it into a game with friendsâfind the cutest outfit under $20.
Local Events & Free Concerts: Community events are often free and super fun.
Sunset Walk + Ice Cream: Sometimes the simplest pleasures feel the richest.
At first, I felt selfish for spending on ânon-essentials.â But I realized that when I gave myself permission to enjoy life, I was happier, less stressed, and more motivated to save and budget. A joyful heart is actually the secret to staying consistent with money goals.
Life isnât just about paying billsâitâs about making memories. When you carve out a little space for joy in your budget, youâll feel more balanced, alive, and even proud of how you manage your money. Because whatâs the point of saving if you canât enjoy the present moment?