Hey, love.
If you’re here reading this, chances are you’re trying to stretch every dollar without stretching yourself too thin. Firstādeep breath. Youāre not alone, and youāre definitely not doing anything wrong. Life is expensive, expectations are sky-high, and sometimes it feels like everyone else has it all figured out… except you.
Well, I’m here to tell you something important: you are doing enough, and yes, there is a way to make budgeting feel like self-care instead of self-punishment. š
Let me walk you through how I turned chaos into calmāeven while living paycheck to paycheck.
I used to avoid my bank app like it was an ex I didnāt want to run into at the grocery store. š But here’s the truth: you canāt fix what you donāt face.
So one Sunday morning, with my favorite latte in hand and a candle burning, I opened my accounts and wrote down:
What was coming in
What was going out
What was being wasted
No guilt. No spiraling. Just facts.
Pro Tip: Create a āmoney ritualā that feels good. Put on cozy socks, play music you love, and treat it like a self-love sessionānot a punishment.
For years, budgeting felt like a prison. But when I changed the way I looked at it, it became empowering. I started thinking:
“Budgeting isnāt about restriction. Itās about direction.”
When every dollar has a purpose, you feel more in control. Itās not about saying ānoā to joyāitās about saying āyesā to peace, stability, and your future self.
Forget spreadsheets that look like rocket science. I grabbed a notebook (yes, old school) and made three columns:
Essentials ā Rent, groceries, bills
Needs ā Transport, child care, meds
Joy ā Coffee dates, Netflix, skincare
Every dollar I spent had to go into one of those. If I couldnāt fit it in, I pausedānot because I ācouldnāt afford it,ā but because I chose to take care of what matters most.
And girl, that right there is power.
There were days I cried over $20. Days I felt ashamed to say āI canāt go out tonight.ā But then I realizedāevery time I said no to a purchase, I was saying YES to something bigger.
So I started celebrating:
Cooking dinner at home = lit candles and jazz music
Not buying that sale dress = more for my savings jar
Declining brunch = quiet coffee on the porch with a book
When you turn sacrifices into intentional rituals, you stop feeling deprivedāand start feeling aligned.
This was my game-changer.
Forget āemergency fundāāit sounds scary. I created a Sanity Fund instead. Just $5ā$10 a week into a jar (or online envelope) for those āI just need a breakā moments.
Whether itās a solo coffee run, a new book, or takeout after a long weekāyou deserve breathing room.
Even on a low income, you can build that space. Slowly. Kindly. Consistently.
š¬ Pause for a second, love.
I know this isnāt easy. Especially when youāre carrying so much on your shoulders. But I promise youābudgeting doesnāt have to feel cold or corporate.
It can feel feminine, freeing, and even beautiful.
But for now? Take a moment and be proud of yourself.
Letās be real ā your brain is already juggling a hundred things. You donāt need another ācomplicated money appā making you feel like a failure.
Here are the simple tools I use that actually work when you’re on a tight income:
I tried a dozen budgeting apps. Most were too technical or too āfinance-bro.ā So now, I only use:
Mint (or Emma if you’re in the UK): For auto-tracking where my money goes
Goodbudget: For the classic āenvelopeā methodādigital style
Why it works?
I know exactly where Iām overspending without manually adding every purchase. And I can āassignā money to different goals without touching it.
Every Sunday night, I take 15 minutes to check in with myself. Not just my bank.
Hereās what I ask:
What drained my money this week?
What drained me emotionally?
Did my spending reflect what I truly value?
Sometimes, we spend to fill a feelingānot a need. This habit helped me stop the cycle of emotional overspending.
Try it with tea, music, and fairy lights. It makes a difference.
Budgeting on low income isnāt about huge sacrifices. Itās about tiny, smart shifts that add up over time.
I literally unsubscribed from every sale email and muted all āhaulā accounts. Out of sight = out of budget crisis.
I donāt make 7-day strict plans. I pick 3 meals I enjoy, stock ingredients, and rotate them. Less waste, less stress.
Once a month, I do a fun challenge:
No-spend weekends
Pantry-only meals
Closet re-style week
Not to restrict ā but to get creative and proud of what I already have.
Budgeting isnāt just numbers. Itās deeply emotionalāespecially for women. Weāre taught to give, nurture, sacrifice.
But hereās what Iāve learned:
You are allowed to want more.
You are allowed to feel tired.
You are allowed to take up financial space.
No matter your income, you deserve peace.
I started speaking kindly to myself:
āI am resourceful.ā
āIām learning, not failing.ā
āMy worth is not tied to my wallet.ā
It shifted everything.
Yes, even on a low income. Especially on a low income.
Because every time I sit down with my numbers, Iām telling the world:
āI care about my future. I believe Iām worthy of stability. I deserve ease.ā
And so do you.
If youāve read this far, I hope you feel seen. Budgeting isnāt glamorous. But it can be grounding. It can be soft, sacred, and strong all at once.
You donāt need to be perfect.
You just need to be kindāto your money and yourself.
So take the pressure off. Light that candle. Check your account with love.
Because budgeting isnāt about restriction.
Itās about reclaiming your power. š
